tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1015951897838387802023-11-16T01:46:51.835+09:30The Talking CrazyJust one girl talking crazy.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-22461288160593949152012-04-04T20:44:00.004+09:302012-04-04T21:25:25.498+09:30Phone phobia and why I feel like an idiot<div style="text-align: justify;">This evening I was a caller on a nationwide radio show, and I wanted to say something about the effect of stigma on mentally ill people (the situation was specifically the stigma surrounding Jason Russell, but I wanted to talk more broadly about mental health stigma). Anyway, it panned out that I got quite flustered and distressed, and was cut off before I could say what I wanted to say on air. The bit of me that they got made me sound very stupid, and I was very unhappy about it.<br /><br />I sent a message on Facebook to the producer (who originally contacted me through Facebook), saying what I wanted to say on air.<br /><br />Fast forward an hour, it is 8:30pm at night and my cellphone rings, number withheld. I freeze up, a huge lump forms in my throat and another in my chest. My ears start ringing and I just stare at the screen on my cellphone until it stops ringing. Then my home phone starts ringing and the same happens, followed by another call to my cellphone. The whole time I am sitting here, frozen, completely filled with absolute terror about the phone, who would be on the other end of the line, what they would say to me... and if it was the radio presenter, how terrified I would sound.<br /><br />I didn't answer. I couldn't. I sat here, terrified, waiting for the ringing to stop.<br /><br />So I will never know what they had to say to me. Maybe an apology, maybe an accusation that I hadn't been clear on air. Who knows, but they didn't leave a message, and no reply was made to my Facebook message. I can't change what happened on air, or how silly I feel I sounded, so I feel like it is best to let that part go.<br /><br />But I can't let go of the fact that my phone phobia is so crippling that I can't answer a call that may make a situation that upset me much better. It is so crippling that if friends call, I avoid answering their calls, I tell them my phone is broken, or it was off. I avoid making calls to utilities companies, or to make doctor's appointments. I just can't do it. The fact I could even use a telephone to talk on the radio show in the first place is a pure miracle, and I just used up my miracles of the day.<br /><br />I would also like to point out at this point that this phone phobia is only active in out of work hours. While at work, it is like I have a separate person that takes over, and I am able to answer the phone, make phone calls, and generally talk on the phone like a human being. Why this is, I couldn't tell you. Perhaps I just know that I have to talk on the phone as part of my job, and I have no choice. There is no one else to answer those calls, only I can do it. It is the same with public speaking - I couldn't talk to a stranger outside of work hours, but in the shop I can talk confidently to several people at once.<br /><br />Moving on, not unlike many phobias I have as an adult, I can pinpoint the direct cause of this anxiety. Many years ago I worked for a fast food restaurant. The manager of the store I worked at used to call and abuse you if you had called in sick, or if you were had been asked to do a shift but couldn't make it then he would call and abuse you for that. Once, he got my housemate instead of me, and abused her instead.<br /><br />It seems like anxiety is the one facet of my mental illness that I just can't shake. I no longer self-injure, I don't make suicide plans, I no longer hide in my room and cry. I have a career, long-term boyfriend, and life is good... but I am still crippled by anxiety and fear.<br /></div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-33337113666114003342011-11-29T19:31:00.003+09:302011-11-29T19:37:48.772+09:30I'm still hereIt has been many months since I last wrote, but I haven't forgotten my blog! I just feel like I don't have much to say or write about at this point. I will endeavor to write a proper blog entry soon :)Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-8048750100312634692011-06-25T15:59:00.003+09:302011-06-25T16:14:49.999+09:30Marsha's gift<div style="text-align: justify;"><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/23/health/23lives.html?_r=1">The woman who developed Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, Marsha Linehan, "came out" recently about her own struggles with Borderline Personality Disorder</a>. It made me smile, because one problem I have always had with therapists of all sorts was whether or not they could view things through my eyes, or if they have ever suffered as I have suffered.<br /><br />I know from experience that I cannot understand my spousecreature's obsessive compulsive behaviours, and I find I am often impatient with him when I can clearly see he is being irrational about something (lint, for reals). So I have a problem where I wonder how a therapist can properly understand where I am coming from if they have never felt the way I do.<br /><br />At the same time, I wonder about the moral and ethical side of the argument, whether or not someone who has suffered from a mental illness should work in the psychology industry, or if it is ethically a great big no-no. Obviously there was some degree of "no-no" if Marsha Linehan has kept quiet about her own struggles for so long, even if they were personal "no-no's", but in the end she felt she would do <span style="font-style: italic;">more</span> good being honest about her struggles with mental illness.<br /><br />I suppose it comes down to individual personality. I know that at this stage in my life, my excess amount of empathy would interfere with working in the mental health field, while someone else who has a mental illness would not have that problem. I do hope that as I get older and a bit more life experience, because I have a feeling I will change into my 30's, I will be at a point where I can enter the mental health field. I would like to save lives, and I would like to make a difference.<br /><br />But getting back to Marsha Linehan, I have to say a big thank you to her. DBT saved my life, and have given me skills to be a happier and more productive person. I know I am grateful for how she has touched my life, even though she doesn't know my name or anything about me, she just knew I suffered and thanks to her development of DBT I am still here to make a difference to the world with my life.<br /><br />Marsha Linehan, I honour you and I thank you for your services to the mental health field. Thank you.<br /></div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-59663597334733226522011-06-11T18:09:00.002+09:302011-06-11T18:14:48.744+09:30Diagnosis<div style="text-align: justify;">I had my last therapy session yesterday. I walked in knowing I had nothing to say to my therapist, and when she asked me what had been happening I said "Nothing at all, really." She asked me what I wanted to do, and I said that I didn't think I needed another appointment. She smiled, agreed with me and told me she hoped I was proud of me, because I should be proud of me.<br /><br />Something interesting that we did talk about was my diagnosis. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder four years ago. My therapist told me yesterday that if I were to go through that process again, it would be a lot harder to get that diagnosis, because I have my disorder controlled to such a point that although I still have the traits of BPD, it would take a lot longer than one session and a lot deeper digging to diagnose me. I have my disorder <span style="font-style: italic;">under control</span>. It makes me grin every time I think those words.<br /><br />Who ever said that mental illness can't be treated? :)<br /></div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-76366490071839936312011-06-01T18:37:00.002+09:302011-06-01T21:36:57.888+09:30Kindness doesn't cost a thing<div style="text-align: justify;">There was a time in my life when I hurt badly inside. I was fighting with my mental illness, and it was winning the battle. I hated myself and everything about myself, from my thoughts right down to the strands of hair on my head. When you hate yourself, it is very hard to love anything else, and I became an individual that was needlessly cruel, and delighted in it because I had nothing else to delight in. I said nasty things to people who didn’t deserve it (and to some who did, but shouldn’t have experienced it from me), regardless of whether those people were strangers or if they were friends. I lost many friends, the ones I had previously called my friends and the ones who might have become my friends in the future.<br /><br />It was a long time ago, and things have changed a lot in my life. I talk freely about how I overcame my mental illness, turned my life around and came to the point I am now. I have also changed my outlook on life, and I believe I’ve found my calling in life, or at least the pursuit that will consume me over the next period of my life. I’ve decided that I am going to be kind, and spread kindness, because I believe kindness is lacking in this world. Maybe I am trying to make amends for the unkindness and cruelty I dealt in the past, or maybe I am trying to change the world a little bit.<br /><br />I am the kind of person who looks around and sees sadness in everything. The kind of person who hears about someone drowning kittens in a trash can and sobs because they can’t believe such horrible cruelty exists in the world, and cannot comprehend how someone could have something in their heart so bad they could do something like that. I am an INFP or “Idealist Healer”. I think that means I am doomed to be miserable while trying to heal all the wrongs and hurts in the world. I’ve heard of people like that, enough to know I wish I wasn’t one of them. Idealists just end up getting hurt as they realise they can’t fix everything, but maybe they just have to be content with the things they do fix.<br /><br />I did an act of kindness today. I didn’t save a litter of kittens, or run down a purse-snatcher, I just helped an elderly man who needed to see the seamstress next door who was closed. I took his clothes that needed mending, and told him I’d take care of it so he didn't have to come back tomorrow when she was open. That seamstress doesn’t often take work, and I warned him of that, but I think if she refuses to mend his clothes, I will do it for him. It is a small job, one I could do easily, and it wouldn’t cost me a thing except 10 minutes of my time.<br /><br />Kindness often doesn’t cost a thing, and I think we can all afford to be kind.<br /></div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-21139710187888449462011-05-27T21:02:00.005+09:302011-05-27T21:32:55.298+09:30Conflict<div style="text-align: justify;">If I could talk about one thing I hated about my diagnosis it would be the fact that I feel my disorder includes a number of personality traits and behaviours that make me someone that people do not like.<br /><br />I hate how I react to conflict, and any semblance of criticism. I have gotten so upset by a conflict I have lost my cool altogether and spent days crying and feeling horrible about myself, and have even cried that I would rather die than be so sensitive to conflict my entire life. Things that "normal" people would shrug off have made me emotionally incapacitated, in a way that is devastating for me, but hilarious to everyone else, and I admit that the one thing I cannot stand is people laughing at me.<br /><br />I hate being teased, even in a good natured fashion, and I cannot stand people laughing at me or making fun of something I have done wrong. Maybe it is a remnant of my school days as a bullied child and teenager, but it has made me a person that hates ridicule and is constantly terrified to put a foot out of place.<br /><br />So, I can't stand conflict, but I am naturally a very prickly person with strong passions and beliefs, who just cannot keep their mouth shut. If there was ever a better recipe for disaster then I have never heard it.<br /><br />Either way, I feel like parts of my disorder make me a horrible person that everyone hates, and it can be hard to deal with that. It is strange to say, but I could live with emotional instability and fear of abandonment alone, but my increased sensitivity to criticism (particularly <span style="font-style: italic;">perceived </span>criticism) and conflict makes my life a horrible place to be, and while I am working hard to deal with how I respond to conflict (and recently received a compliment on it, which really made my day!), I still feel inappropriate every time I fail to keep my cool with someone.<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Are there parts of your diagnosis that you can't stand? Could you deal with your mental health conditions if these parts were to disappear?<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></span><span>I have also changed the name I have on Blogger in an effort to keep my blog and my personal life separate. As I get older, my privacy has become increasingly important, and I talk about many sensitive things on this blog, so I am sure you all understand why I have done this!<span style="font-weight: bold;"></span></span><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /></span></div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-68895775445791681942011-04-24T21:30:00.002+09:302011-04-24T21:35:07.211+09:30I'm fat. So?<div style="text-align: justify;">A subject that is very close to my heart as a fat woman is the body/fat acceptance movement. I wouldn't say that I am politically involved in the movement, and nor would I say that I am hugely read on the subject, but I absolutely support the acceptance of ourselves and each other. I am strongly opposed to fat shaming and believe in the HAES principle. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">In fact, I have ended friendships if people have shown venom towards fat people, because quite frankly I don't buy that "I hate all ______ people, except <i>you</i>, of course!" bullshit. If you hate fat people, then you feel the same thing for me, you're just too chicken shit to tell me to my face.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">So imagine my annoyance when someone makes the comment that they find it "disturbing". Oh, I'm sorry you find my body type disturbing. You know what I find disturbing? I find it disturbing that we encourage people to hate themselves, and we shame them for their appearance - often resorting to nasty comments, abuse and scare tactics. I find it much more disturbing to see people hating themselves, not accepting and loving themselves.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I find it disturbing that it is absolutely unacceptable in society to make fun of or shame someone because of their appearance... except if they're fat. If they're fat then it is absolutely acceptable because fat people are disgusting and a drain on society! Except, you know, they aren't. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I'm not going to write a whole blog post about my hatred of assholes who think it is okay to tell fat people to starve themselves, or tell me I must eat McDonald's every meal time (except, you know, I don't), or any number of things I could talk about when it comes to people who should remove their heads from their rectums. If you want to talk about that, go check out #thingsfatpeoplearetold on Twitter. Some of the posts may astound, shock and horrify you. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">What I do want to talk about is love. I absolutely believe we should all love and accept ourselves, because we are all different and unique. We all have different size and shaped noses. We have different lips, eyebrows, hair colour/thickness/length. We all have different heights, and we all have different weights. That is it, the end. We have different weights. Naturally. There is no "healthy weight all human beings should fit into". That is bullshit. BMI is bullshit. The sooner you realise that, the happier you'll be.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">So once we get our head around that, I want you to go look in the mirror. Look at that flab on your tummy, or maybe you have none at all. Maybe your ass is big and orange peel-y. Maybe it is flat and small. Maybe you have big boobs that pop out of every shirt you wear, no matter what. Maybe you have small breasts. No matter how tall or short you are, how fat or thin or somewhere in the middle you are. No matter if you have big boobs, no boobs, man boobs or wonky boobs. <i>There is nothing wrong with the way you look.</i> At all. Nothing. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">It is a hard concept to get your mind around. Sometimes I look in the mirror, particularly those mirrors in department store dressing rooms where I can see every inch of my body in all its steatopygian fatty glory, and I despise what I look. I scrutinise my gigantic ass which has no real separation from my thighs, the stomach that hangs over a bit, and I hate what I look like. Sometimes I think of really bad things to do to my body because of those horrible thoughts. It took me a really long time to realise it wasn't me looking through my eyes and hating what I saw... it was everyone else. When I looked at myself with those eyes I was hearing every nasty word hurled at me about my appearance and applied them to myself. I don't have a problem with me, <i>everyone else does</i>. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Everyone else seems to be offended by my body, and that isn't my fucking problem, frankly. If you think I am disgusting and so seriously offensive, I'd advise you seek therapy instead of projecting onto me. After all, I'm not the one with the problem here. You think my fat is giving me massive health problems? I have no health problems stemming from my weight. I do, however, have self-esteem problems, and developed an eating disorder after being screamed at about my body for 17 years. My fat will kill me? Unlikely, though my former pack-a-day cigarette habit might. However, even if I develop some freak health problems related to my weight, it won't affect you in the slightest. I'll be the one that is sick, and no doubt the huge amount of tax I pay to the government will cover my medical bills. My weight, and my health, is none of your business, so you can kindly keep your nose out of my business, and everyone else's.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b>Accept and love your body for what it is, because it belongs to you and because of that it is special. </b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
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Find this post interesting? These links might be up your alley!<br />
<a href="http://www.shamelessmag.com/blog/2011/04/myth-one-fat-is-unhealthy/">Shameless Mag - Myth One: Fat Is Unhealthy</a><br />
<a href="http://fatheffalump.wordpress.com/2011/04/10/its-easy-just-starve/">Fat Heffalump - It's Easy, Just Starve.</a><br />
<a href="http://www.therotund.com/?p=1135">The Rotund - "Concern Trolling"</a></div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-23104794718098623362011-04-24T13:00:00.001+09:302011-04-24T13:01:36.285+09:30The Impossible<div style="text-align: justify;">I often have moments of concern about whether or not I should view this as a blog where I can talk in a very similar way, or if I should keep an emotional distance. The hard part is finding the acceptable balance, since this is not after all my personal blog, but a very specialised one for an aspect of myself. This following blog post may step over that line, but the things I want to talk about are familiar and emotional.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I learned today that someone close to me is pregnant, which led to me feeling concerned about my own future. I worried I'd never achieve the things I want to achieve - a house on a few acres of land, enough money to even take time off work for pregnancy and such, etc - and it gets to me at times. I look ahead of me and it seems like a giant clock is ticking away. Not in a "my biological clock is ticking" way, but in a "there are only so many years until I'm 30, and then until I'm 40, and how can I achieve x, y and z by this time?" way.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">It seems amazing to me that in my lifetime, maybe in not too many years, I could possibly achieve the goals I wish, and my greatest fear is getting to an old age without achieving any of them. At times it seems impossible, but then I look back at my last 5 years.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">5 years ago I was in a dead end job at a fast food place, but I was so ill I pretty much never showed up. Thinking about work would drive me into a state - I was crying all the time, having panic attacks, and I was physically ill - and I made hardly any money. I ate food at work and then spent $20 on groceries every week - a dozen eggs, bread, some English muffins, pasta and ramen. I thought I had no future, nothing. I had no money, I was seriously ill, and paranoid about the people around me.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I ended up in a hospital with the choice to either live or die.That was 4 years ago.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Over the next year I went to therapy, and generally changed my perceptions on things. I got a part time job with a friend, that became a full time job. I had money coming in, and I moved out and in with a friend. My boyfriend moved in and then we moved out together as a couple. I stopped working for my friend and opened my own business. Now I earn more than I have ever earned in my life. My disorder is controlled, my relationship is going better than I ever expected to have as a Borderline.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">So, the point is, how can I believe anything is impossible? How can I believe that someday I might not have the home I want, kids, a future, when I have already achieved the impossible?</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I guess the one good thing my Borderline has taught me is that nothing is impossible.</div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-87678684357451965172011-04-21T22:28:00.001+09:302011-04-21T22:28:29.249+09:30Jesus is not at the wheel!<div style="text-align: justify;">I don't know about you guys, but a common trend I have gone through with my disorder is the concept of it being a "personality" disorder, and that somehow the very fabric of my personality was disordered, that everything I was stemmed from the disorder. It was a while before I realised the name was flawed, imperfect, and my personality was not entirely ruled by my disorder.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">So when someone commented they felt like a different person when their disorder took control, I flashed back to every disordered situation I'd ever been through, and absolutely agreed with the statement.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Before we get too involved in the tangent I am no doubt going to embark on, let me just clarify that I do not have dissociative identities (to my knowledge) and when I talk about being a different person, watching myself speak, etc it is not in the same sense as a person with DID would experience (I imagine). </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Anyway, continuing with the tangent... There are situations in my every day life, though rarer and rarer these days, where something will flip a switch and I will go from Dimmie to Borderline in 0.23 seconds flat. I, Dimmie, will be inside my brain, clutching at my hair and clawing at my face in horror as Borderline screams, shouts, abuses, rants and otherwise makes a royal cunt of themselves (myself!).</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I will be locked inside my head as Borderline says things with venom I would never dream of saying, and it makes me feel powerless that my disease can take control with so little warning. The number of friendships that have ended after Borderline has had a red hot go at them is astouding, and I have shrunk away from mending things out of shame. Shame for the things I have said, and a lot of fear of rejection (which I should talk about, but that can wait for another post).</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">I absolutely 100% believe that part of my personality is influenced and perhaps controlled by my disorder. Obviously some of my quirks are a direct result of my diagnosis - abandonment fears, 0-100 in a millisecond, and various other exciting things - but everything? Of course not. I think that to believe my entire personality is disordered, a casualty of my disease, is ignorant at best. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Not for the first time I wish a more accurate and less misleading name could be found for my disease, but in the meantime I will have to live with not having my druthers!</div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-55034102924552247802011-02-14T20:53:00.000+09:302011-02-14T20:53:14.486+09:30Throwing stones? How about I throw some back!<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">I have to say that one thing that really “gets my goat” is the idea that there are “real” self-injurers and “fake” self-injurers. The “real” self-injurers are the ones that don't want people to notice, and keep it close to their hearts. They're secretive and panic at the thought of someone ever finding out about their secret coping mechanism. The “fake” self-injurers are the ones that don't cover their wounds or scars, talk openly about it and just generally “seek attention”. </div><div> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">Why, pray tell, does “attention seeking” have this negative connotation? Of course they're bloody seeking attention, they're cutting themselves for frick's sake. They need help, and are asking it in maybe the only way they know how. Of course they need help. If you're cutting yourself, no matter for what reason, you need help. It isn't healthy behaviour and can have long effects, we all know this. So why is one self-injurer more worthy of help than another?</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">We all know that the reasons for self-injury are variable and individual, and often are very personal. My reasons for self-injuring are probably very different to yours, for example, and I can't pretend to know why you self-injure any more than you can pretend to know why I self-injure. So with that in mind, how can I look at someone who others would term an “attention seeker” and even have a guess at the motivations behind their actions? I can't, and neither can you or anyone else.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">I think it is prudent to remember this when we consider judging anyone for their actions or decisions. </div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-20151760130593288552011-02-13T17:04:00.000+09:302011-02-13T17:04:34.793+09:30Amplification<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">If you're anything like me you've heard people scoff at the diagnostic criteria of any given mental illness and claim that those criteria could apply to anyone. Everyone gets a bit down, fears the end of their relationship or being abandoned by the ones they love. Everyone is scared something bad will happen to their loved ones, or is at times unable to see the shades of grey between the black and the white. We all know this is true, so what exactly is it that sets normal personality quirks apart from those of a disordered personality?</div><div> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">Quite simply, I'd say it comes down to severity. Sure, we all fear things in life but when that fear is so strong and starts to rule your life I think it becomes a problem, and then it gets labelled as an anxiety disorder. Everyone gets a bit blue from time to time, but when you're so down you forget to shower for three weeks and don't go to work because you can't get out of bed I'd say we're at the point of clinical depression. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">As much as I hate to drop “Girl, Interrupted” quotes, I think the concept that someone with mental illness is “you or me, amplified” has a lot of truth to it.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">When these personality quirks become so strong they impede our day-to-day living, at that point it becomes a mental health concern. Is that not the same as so many other physical illnesses? We may all get a bit of a tension headache from time to time, so we pop some Advil and get on with it. When it becomes a migraine so bad we're hiding in a cool closet away from all light and sound? Yep, that's a problem.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">I really do think that mental illness is viewed so differently from these physical ailments, and I don't necessarily think we should view them any differently. A wrenched ankle is an ailment, and so too is clinical depression. Both deserve treatment, and neither one is more or less “valid” as an illness. To think this is to alienate a huge number of the population, and because mental illness is mostly such an invisible disease we really can't tell by looking at someone whether or not they have an illness. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;"> </div><div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;">An illness is an illness, regardless of whether it is physical or mental, and to be frankly honest all those members of society that scoff at mental illness haven't got a clue about mental illness and should be ignored. They're not professionals, they haven't done any form of education on the subject, and have no right to drop science on the subject. So you're well within you're rights to tell them to shove it up their ass.</div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-70891407056171117892011-02-11T22:19:00.000+09:302011-02-11T22:19:20.144+09:30The Unlovable Borderline<div style="text-align: justify;">There is a lot of stigma about Borderline Personality Disorder and interpersonal relationships, particularly romantic relationships. If you've ever gone looking for it, there is a whole lot of information on the internet for those afflicted by the Borderline... um, sorry, I mean those in relationships with Borderlines. For the Borderline this can be horrifying and daunting, to go looking for information to help you with your disease and instead find entire websites devoted to helping your spouse divorce you without you killing yourself. Very uplifting stuff, right?</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">So I obviously went through a whole lot of tears thinking I wasn't capable of having a stable relationship. Not only was I not capable, but I didn't deserve one either because of this dirty, dirty disease. At the time my relationship was very tumultuous, so that did nothing to assuage my fears that I was doomed to a life with horribly volcanic and angry arguments and dramas in my love life. My relationship was on-again, off-again due to a variety of factors that truly weren't solely to do with me and my disease, and as they say it really does take two to tango.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">Eventually though things started evening out. It was like my relationship was ironing its own kinks out, and on Sunday I will be celebrating the five year anniversary with my partner, M. We've been living together for a year now, and things are better than I had ever expected. Arguments are rare, and we do all those things I thought I would never do with anyone. We go to the nursery to buy plants for our little outdoor dining area, do laundry and make dinner on weeknights. All truly mundane things I thought that I, as a Borderline, would never be able to do with someone.</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: justify;">It truly is like my life is being spent looking for new and exciting ways to give my illness to finger, and in so many ways I am succeeding. So Borderline? Fuck you!</div>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-61165139638319554472010-09-18T19:54:00.001+09:302010-09-18T20:01:23.680+09:30Between what and what?The proposed revisions for DSM-V are <a href="http://www.dsm5.org/Pages/Default.aspx">available to view on the internet</a> and so I went along and had a read of the revision for Borderline Personality Disorder. I was pleased with the revisions, but this has led me to start thinking a lot more about my illness lately, and I have come to terms with and realised a few things about what it actually means to be Borderline.<br />
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So what have I realised? Honestly, what I have realised is that the majority of people who know what BPD is either a) thinks the disorder doesn't actually exist, or b) they fucking hate us. No, really.<br />
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Let me elaborate a bit. I have been reading on a lot of forums about people who have been diagnosed with BPD and their experiences in the mental health industry. The consensus seems to be that once they had their diagnosis, professional support was withdrawn and they were treated with disdain. At least nine out of ten people had negative experiences as a direct result of their diagnosis. I used to be that one person in ten that didn't... until I actually started looking back and scrutinising my experiences in the mental health system, and then it became apparent that I never really did receive the support I should have. For example, <i>after</i> I was diagnosed (five days into my seven days stay in hospital for a suicide attempt) the doctors and nurses started telling me I was using a bed that could be used for someone with real needs (in those words), and when I was diagnosed, my doctors gave me only the name of my disorder and a prescription. I was never offered an explanation of what I actually suffered from, and had to learn it for myself from the DSM-IV.<br />
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My experience was not bad by any means though obviously it was not as helpful as it could have been. However, it is certainly an example of how the system will treat you differently after a diagnosis of BPD. Other experiences I have read about have been much worse. Someone once mentioned on a forum that while an inpatient a large amount of work was done to organise continuing care and support for when they left the hospital. Once they were diagnosed with BPD, those plans were cancelled and the individual was left with no support once they were discharged from the unit.<br />
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I sent my mother a link to the proposed revision of Borderline and made the comment of Borderline's being treated differently by the medical field which prompted her to contact a friend who worked for a long time in the mental health field. Her friend confirmed that doctors and nurses do indeed treat Borderline patients differently. She once asked a doctor why they virtually ignored people with BPD and received the answer that "they can't be helped anyway". I recently also witnessed a mental health worker talking about Borderline patients and her comments were that we are "impossible" to deal with unless medicated, and that we were unpredictable and abusive.<br />
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When I was first diagnosed I went looking on the Internet for resources about Borderline to help me. All I found were resources to help the abused partners of Borderlines seeking advice on how to leave a Borderline and divorce advice, as well as sad stories about the children of Borderlines being abused by their parent. This worried and upset me so much that I was afraid to live. I knew what my disease was, finally, and was ready to fight it, but what was the point in knowing my disease when I would just become a husband and child abuser? What was the point in living, in fact? Obviously I did fight my disease, and I am now in a relationship, but every time my irrational and quick anger fights through and I say something nasty to my partner I have this sinking feeling inside me. I mean, not only am I afraid to lose myself to my anger and hurt my loved ones, but I am also afraid of passing on whatever genetic link exists inside me to my children and having to watch them suffer from the same demons that I do.<br />
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After that little side-track, I suppose I would like to know why the medical profession despises Borderlines so much. Is it because they view us as manipulators and liars just trying to get attention? This reminds me of the debate about whether or not people who self-injure for attention are worthy of support or help, and my argument has ever been that no matter why they self-injure there is still something wrong and they still deserve help. So with a disorder like Borderline which is characterised by desperate and manipulating attempts to avoid abandonment would a doctor not just see that as part of the disease that needs to be treated? Would a doctor not see irrational anger and abuse to be part of the disease that the individual needs to be helped overcome? Or are Borderlines simply placed in the "Too Hard" basket and left to become the abusive parents they become when left untreated?<br />
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Everyone has the right to supportive treatment by the mental health field, no matter what their disorder is or how mild that disorder might be. No one should be left to fend for themselves or go untreated because a doctor feels that they are undeserving of treatment.<br />
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So to every Borderline that is reading this, I want you to know that you deserve treatment and support. You can, with treatment, live a healthy life and manage your disorder. You're not destined to be an abusive partner or parent. You're not undeserving, and you're not impossible or untreatable. So next time someone tries to shrug you off, stand up and demand the respect and help that you deserve.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-71018998161740869662010-07-05T13:32:00.000+09:302010-07-05T13:32:20.437+09:30Getting the trust backI had an experience recently where I perceived a loved one was not trusting me to take responsibility for my own mental health. They asked my partner to keep an eye on me while I was going off my medication without talking to me about it.<br />
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Now, I have never particularly enjoyed people discussing my mental health behind my back, perhaps because I view it as everyone else not thinking I could contribute rationally to the discussion. I have always felt like doctors and other people in my life have whispered about my diagnosis and treatment without consulting me at all.<br />
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I remember just over three years ago I was in an emergency psychiatric department. I was suddenly ushered down to another room where two men wanted to give me a physical before I went to the other hospital that day. I had heard nothing about this and I lost my shit. I told them that I had been quiet and had not disrupted their ward or bothered them unnecessarily. I told them that the psychiatrist on call had told me I had been doing "bad and wrong things", had refused to discuss anything with my mother (who was interstate) and had wanted to release me into the care of my 21 year old housemate (who, at the time, was not my greatest fan, and we have since parted company completely). The men looked aghast and told me they would find out for me, left and came back a few minutes later to tell me that they found a bed for me at another hospital and I would be transferred there in a few hours. I thanked them very much, but I still felt angry that no one had thought to mention to me that they were transferring me. I had a mental illness and was admitted because of a suicide attempt, not because I was incapable of being treated like an adult or being told anything about my own treatment.<br />
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I have constantly felt like this in my mental health journey. I have felt like decisions were being made for me without it even being mentioned to me, like I had no say in the matter. I was never consulted, and more often than not I was treated like a fake by the professionals in the field. In fact, after I was transferred to the next hospital, they checked with me every day if I was ready to be a "good girl" and get my Borderline ass (yes, they'd just diagnosed me) out of their hospital because there were people who actually needed the facility and I was wasting the bed that could be needed by someone else. Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realise that being a suicidal Borderline wasn't as important as that crazy tart across the hall that screamed all night or my roomie that was admitted after being taken to hospital for an asthma attack. The fuck, man? As a matter of fact, the only person I felt truly supported by in hospital was a male nurse who had the last name of Hammond (I remember this because one of my friends is named Hammond). This nurse was always supportive, always ready to give me a hug or listen to me cry because I was confused about being in hospital. Compare that to the snobby indifference of the psychiatrists and you can guess who I would have preferred to spend time with!<br />
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So enough about my misgivings with the snobby psychiatrists who treat you like a piece of dirt, we were meant to be talking about trust. So let us talk about why I think I can be trusted, shall we?<br />
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I believe I can be trusted because I have worked hard to conquer my fear of psychiatry and psychology, enough so that I could do successful therapy with a psychologist. I took my medication, stopped self-injuring, recovered in pretty much every way. Now I have made the decision after three years to end my course of medication, tapering the dosage down over 80 days. I have taken no medication for over two weeks now and I feel amazing.<br />
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Now, I don't want you to think that this means that I wouldn't accept help again or go back on medication if I found that I was struggling, but that seems to be lost on the people around me. I am very aware of my moods and find myself monitoring my mental health very closely, so of course I would definitely be the first in line to see the doctor if things all went a little pear shaped. I feel that my family and friends don't believe that, and are constantly afraid I will relapse.<br />
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Just because I was well when on medication doesn't mean I won't be well off it.<br />
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On a similar note, people are always blaming any blip in my mood on my mental illness. Newsflash, peeps, "normal" people have mood swings too. Normal people cry when they fight with their boyfriend or someone says something hurtful to them. Because I cry in those situations does not mean I am losing my fucking shit, okay? Just because I cry when I'm stressed, haven't had much sleep and then my cat gets run over does not mean that I am about to flip out and commit suicide. In the same way that women hate it when men accuse them on menstruating when she is being snarky, I hate it when people think I am being mentally ill every time I feel any mood other than happiness.<br />
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So, what I am trying to say is to have a little faith. Have faith that I am being responsible for myself, and that I don't need people spying and reporting back on me. Have faith that I can take care of myself now and that I can take responsibility to seek help if I need it.<br />
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Have faith!Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-46581933496612038082010-06-22T19:05:00.000+09:302010-06-22T19:05:38.430+09:30So you know someone who self-injuresSo you've just found out that your child, your pupil, your grandchild or your friend hurts themselves. I am guessing you feel shocked, upset, guilty or angered by this, which are very natural reactions, but what do you do now that you know? How should you approach them? Should you approach them?<br />
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In short, <i>now what</i>?<br />
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Firstly, it is important to remember that this is not your fault, they are not crazy, they are not seeking your attention and that they are in some degree of emotional pain or turmoil which has manifested in self-injury. They are still the same person you have always known and loved, they are just coping with a problem in a way that might not appear to be very helpful to you, and <i>it is not your fault</i>! <br />
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Now that you've processed this information, you need to know what to do, and what not to do. It might take some trial and error to understand which is right and which is wrong for the individual you are dealing with because we are all individuals, and we all hurt ourselves for different reasons and in different ways. The only way to figure that out is to communicate with the person, but for now here is a list of things to do and things not to do!<br />
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<ul><li>Talk about self-injury with the person, but don't press them for information. Be non-judgemental and let them know that you are there to talk to if they need to discuss this, or anything else, with you. Self-injury is a behaviour that is often very secretive, and the person may feel ashamed about the fact that they hurt themselves, so understandably it might be something that is difficult for them to talk about at first. Just be patient, supportive and do not display any hint of behaviour that may portray you as being judgemental of their self-injury. </li>
</ul><ul><li>Do not ask the person to stop self-injurying and do not issue ultimatums. They are very distressing to the person because they feel that their self-injury is often the only thing they can do to cope with their own distress. If you force them to stop self-injurying, they will become even more withdrawn and secretive, and often very afraid that if they do not stop self-injuring you will not love them any more. </li>
</ul><ul><li>Do talk to a counsellor about your own feelings and reactions. It is important for anyone in this situation to receive some kind of "self-care" to look after their own wellbeing and mental health. Do not be afraid to seek help for yourself. Caring for someone who self-injures can be very distressing and emotional, and it is important to take care of yourself. You are number one. Always.</li>
</ul>These are only three things that you can do, but there are many more. You can read more about how to support a loved one who self-injurers at <a href="http://self-injury.net/information-recovery/family-and-friends">this website</a> which is a valuable resource for anyone who is affected by self-injury, and also has a very active forum where you can go to ask advice on any aspect of self-injury. A "real-life" counsellor or therapist will also be able to give you some information about how to approach a situation like this.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-4314535031325365902010-06-21T15:05:00.001+09:302010-06-21T15:06:07.181+09:30Top Australian Mental Health Advisor QuitsHere is some important news for my Australian readers regarding the state of mental health in the eyes of the Rudd government. <br />
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<blockquote><b>PRIME Minister Kevin Rudd's top mental health adviser has quit, accusing the Government of a lack of vision and commitment to a problem that affects millions of Australians. </b> National Advisory Council on Mental Health chairman John Mendoza tendered his resignation yesterday in a letter to Health Minister Nicola Roxon and council members.<br />
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In the letter, obtained by Fairfax newspapers, he said he had regarded his appointment as the "most important public service responsibility of my life" and felt a "deep sense of disappointment" in quitting.<br />
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"It is now abundantly clear that there is no vision or commitment from the Rudd Government to mental health," he wrote. "The Rudd Government is publicly claiming credit for the increased investment in mental health when almost all of this is a consequence of the work of the Howard Government."<br />
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Professor Mendoza's resignation came as leaked figures revealed the expansion of the Better Access program, which provides rebates under Medicare for services such as general practitioner mental health plans and visits to psychologists.<br />
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Most experts on the advisory council believe the program is sucking money from where it is needed - on services for growing numbers of mentally unwell young people - and that it is shutting out men, the poor and rural Australians.<br />
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Professor Mendoza described the program as "a mess" that should be overhauled into taxpayer-funded teams of psychologists and other professionals, such as mental health nurses and social workers.<br />
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Today, through a spokesman, Ms Roxon thanked Professor Mendoza for his service and agreed that more needed to be done. <br />
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"However, the Minister rejects Mr Mendoza's assertion that the Government has no commitment to mental health." <b>Source: http://www.news.com.au/breaking-news/prime-minister-kevin-rudds-top-mental-health-adviser-john-mendoza-quits/story-e6frfku0-1225881829753</b></blockquote><br />
Here is another Australian news article focusing on Greens Senator Siewert's thoughts of the resignation of John Mendoza and the state of mental health services and funding.<br />
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<blockquote><b>THE resignation of Prime Minister Kevin Rudd's top mental health advisor has prompted calls for an extra $5bn to be committed to this 'neglected' problem. </b> Greens senator and health spokeswoman Rachel Siewert says the resignation of National Advisory Council on Mental Health chairman John Mendoza is indicative of the "tokenistic" approach the federal government has taken on a problem affecting millions of Australians.<br />
Mr Mendoza quit on Friday, after accusing the federal government of a lack of vision and commitment.<br />
Just $175 million was allocated to new funding for mental health in last month's $7.2 billion federal health budget.<br />
In his resignation letter to federal Health Minister Nicola Roxon and fellow council members, Professor Mendoza said the federal government was trying to take credit for Howard-era spending on mental health.<br />
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<a href="http://www.adelaidenow.com.au/news/national/mental-health-needs-an-urgent-5bn/story-e6frea8c-1225881986191"><b>Read more...</b></a></blockquote>Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-1616813159898452732010-05-31T17:45:00.000+09:302010-05-31T17:45:34.953+09:30We need to talk about bullyingI think that every single person who reads this blog has come across bullying in some way or another. Some of you may have been bullied, seen bullying or were bullies (or any combination of those three), so it isn't hard to learn that bullying exists in some capacity in almost every school around the world.<br />
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In my opinion, bullying is a major problem in schools today and can lead to long-term suffering for the victim in the form of depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and even suicide. It is estimated that in the UK anywhere from 15-25 children will commit suicide due to bullying. Isn't that scary?<br />
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So what exactly <i>is</i> bullying?<br />
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Bullying includes, but is not limited to, name-calling, alienation and exclusion, punching, pinching, kicking, teasing and coercion. Victims of bullying often become isolated from their peers because of their exclusion from group activities, the bullying of their friends (who eventually stop associating with them) and criticising them based on the way they dress, physical features, disability, race, class, hobbies or gender.<br />
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Schoolyard bullying can happen in the classroom, in halls, toilets, on the playground, on the way to and from school (on buses or on the route walked home) and anywhere that isn't under the eye of a teacher. It is horribly common and the results of bullying can be sometimes devastating.<br />
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A lot of people who are bullied will often not report it to their teachers or parents, or they did so at one point and nothing was done about it. Bullying can often be dismissed by adults in power which only reinforces the individual's feelings of low self-esteem.<br />
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So what can be done about bullying? In a lot of schools here in Australia there are a growing number of students and teachers starting anti-bullying campaigns and this increased awareness of the severity of bullying will lead parents and teachers to be more alert for bullying and to take reports of bullying seriously. I think bullies need to start being punished rather than be let get away with it. Bullies will never learn that their behaviour is wrong if they do not receive any form of negative response.<br />
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Obviously the one thing you can do is report it if you are being bullied or if you see someone being bullied. Be brave, stand up and say something... you could save someone's life.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-34359205838526821172010-05-19T19:32:00.000+09:302010-05-19T19:32:01.562+09:30Wednesday's child is full of woeRecently I have been involving myself in various mental health support forums and am finding it for the most part to be fairly rewarding, but... I find myself getting very frustrated and annoyed by the number of people who are so absorbed in their own self hatred that they completely disregard or contradict anything anyone tries to do or say out of concern for them.<br />
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It is sad and really detrimental to their recovery because they will drive away anyone that would have tried to help them. I won't even offer a kind word to these people any more because they don't listen, so when the time comes when they've decided to get proactive and work towards their recovery, suddenly no one will be there. It is like some horrible real-life Boy Who Cried Wolf.<br />
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I really think the key is to boost self esteem and challenge negative thinking before it consumes you. There are so many different ways to start building your self confidence and starting to challenge negative thoughts. These can be as simple as giving yourself positive affirmations and can go all the way to identifying negative thinking and challenging it.<br />
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Here are some links to get you started!<br />
- <a href="http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/disorders/self-esteem.html">Building Self-Esteem: A Self-Help Guide</a><br />
- <a href="http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/self-esteem-feeling-ok-about-who-you-are">Feeling OK about who you are</a><br />
- <a href="http://www.dvirc.org.au/whenlove/selfesteem.htm">Self-Esteem</a><br />
- <a href="http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/challenging-negative-self-talk">Challenging negative self-talk</a><br />
- <a href="http://www.mindtools.com/stress/PerformanceStress/ThoughtAwareness.htm">Thought Awareness</a><br />
- <a href="http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=47">Overcoming low self-esteem</a> (this entire series of work books is AMAZING, not just the self-esteem module!)Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-25034766662275528032010-05-05T19:37:00.000+09:302010-05-05T19:37:36.313+09:30It's my self-injury birthdayToday I finally reached three whole years without self-injuring. I had been self-injurying in one way or another since I was around 15 years old. I took the big step to razor blades when I was 16 and it was a downhill spiral ever since. I didn't appreciate or understand the addictive nature of the behaviour until many years later, and by then I suppose it was too late.<br />
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I still think about it every day. I still fight the urge to hurt myself every single day of my life. I dream about it, fantasise about it, even make up plans of how to do it and get away with it (completely impossible now that I am living with my partner, by the way). I actually sometimes wonder if people with addictions to drugs or alcohol think about their given up addictions in the same way that I do with self-injury.<br />
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I see people at least every day who have harmed themselves. Some are friends, some are strangers. Every time I see a young person with fresh cuts on their arm when their armband slips or their sleeve falls down I feel a pang of worry for them. I worry when I see young people who have cut themselves because I too was once them and what started as a scratches soon developed into so much more. I worry that they don't appreciate the highly addictive nature of the habit, and that some day they will be struggling to give it up like I am.<br />
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Self-injury is the act of intentionally causing yourself physical injury by cutting, burning, interfering with wound healing, hair-pulling (trichotillomania), skin-picking (dermatillomania), head or wrist banging... and many, many other ways. The reasons that people self-injure are as wide and varied as the self-injury methods. People self-injury to cope with overwhelming emotions, stop/prevent/induce dissociation, as a physical representation of emotional pain, inducing euphoric feelings, gaining control, self-punishment and many other reasons. <br />
People that self-injure often keep it hidden from family and friends because they are ashamed. You could pass people in the street and never know whether or not they self-harm.<br />
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For more information about self-injury you can visit <a href="http://self-injury.net/">Self-Injury: A Struggle</a>, which not only has an excellent FAQ about self-injury (for both people who self-injure and their friends and family) but also a large and tight-knit forum community where you can talk to others and receive support.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-90092943652603372452010-05-04T19:10:00.000+09:302010-05-04T19:10:14.139+09:30What's your diagnonsense?In the wide social community that those of us with mental illness inevitably find ourselves in sooner or later, the sharing of each other's diagnosis seems to end up happening sooner or later. Some of us have them and some don't. Some people even have more than one. We all seem to have something different "wrong" with us, so obviously it is a good talking point. But how important are diagnosis to our recovery? Do they do any good, or only harm?<br />
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I know that in my case I was glad, relieved and even thankful to get a diagnosis. I had spent so many years knowing something was wrong, but not having it confirmed. So I felt relief that I finally had a name for this mysterious illness that had affected my life so intensely, and that now that I knew what it was I would be able to fight it. You can't fight a monster you can't see or understand, can you?<br />
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However, with my diagnosis came a whole lot of drama. People just plain don't believe my illness exists, and that it is just a bogus label made up by doctors so they had a box where they could stick people like me. Hell, some doctors don't even believe it exists. On top of that, there is also the wonderful traits that people think I should have. I should be promiscuous because Susanna Kaysen (author of <i>Girl, Interrupted</i>) was and she had the same diagnosis that I do. I should be an attention-seeking, manipulating individual that will stop at nothing to force people to never leave her side.<br />
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There are good sides and bad sides to every diagnosis. My disorder finally had a face, but I had to deal with the stigma associated with that diagnosis. Sometimes the good outweigh the bad, like in my case, but in others the bad is the winner by far.<br />
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So when we consider the good and the bad sides of the diagnosis, it is unsurprising that some people would rather just not know. They would rather just battle their faceless and nameless monster without worrying about the specifics. Is this any less viable than knowing? How can I be the one to say that a choice is wrong for someone else? Every single one of us is different and we all have different ways of dealing with our illnesses.<br />
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Isn't it amazing how a few simple words can so greatly affect what we feel about ourselves?Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-13767318851589520662010-05-02T13:48:00.000+09:302010-05-02T13:48:58.111+09:30BloodlettingI went to the book store yesterday and found myself at the check out with arms full of the memoirs of people with mental illnesses. The first one I picked up to read as soon as I got home was "Bloodletting" by Victoria Leatham. I suppose I picked it to read first because it was the only one that was even remotely applicable to me. The book is a written record of Victoria's experiences with Bipolar II and her struggle with self-injury. <br />
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Victoria struggled with her Bipolar Disorder for approximately 15 years before a doctor finally recommended she try Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) as well as medication. In the past, doctors and psychiatrists had done seemingly nothing except give her various forms of psychiatric drugs. She had never done any form of psychotherapy except for partaking in some group therapy on the occasions that she was hospitalised.<br />
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I want to use this book as an example for explaining my number one psychiatric pet peeve: Drugs do not make you happy.<br />
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That last statement may come as some sort of surprise to you, but it is true. There is no magical medication that will make you happy. Antidepressants are mood stabilisers. Meaning that they regulate your mood so that you do not have extreme highs and lows, thus making your mood easier to deal with and handle. They do not make you happy, and they should never be the only form of help you seek for depression issues. If you only ever take medication and never once try psychotherapy, you are likely to relapse because you never changed your behaviour in the first place.<br />
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I am not saying, and I never will, that medication is not useful. It certainly is for many people (and then it isn't for other people as well), but medication alone cannot "cure" depression because it is often more than just a chemical imbalance. We have a lot of negative, self-defeating behaviours that are often learned, and unless you unlearn those negative behaviours and thinking patterns, you can take all the medication in the world and relapse.<br />
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I definitely believe that doctors in Australia are incredibly script happy when it comes to psychiatric medication. Most GPs will be only too happy to give you a prescription for a psychiatric medication and then send you on your way. Some won't even bother to suggest you see any form of mental health support group, let alone seek an appropriate counsellor. I always wondered why a GP was even allowed to write prescriptions for psychiatric medication when they often have no idea about the medication or how it works.<br />
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A doctor I saw once prescribed Fluvoxamine when the medication I was on (Venlafaxine) was making me drowsy and I was experiencing suicidal thoughts. Fluvoxamine (or Luvox as it was branded when I was taking it) has the very common side effect of making you incredibly drowsy. The psychiatrist I saw after everything went a bit pear-shaped on the Luvox front (Lets just say that I was only awake for a few hours before being so exhausted I had to go back to sleep) was aghast that I was prescribed it in the first place considering I was complaining about drowsiness and the fact Fluvoxamine was withdrawn from the American market after a tasty little scandal with a school shooting. It isn't a very popular medication (and a very old one, since it was one of the first SSRIs on the market) and I still wonder why a GP was able to prescribe medication that he had no idea about, and that had the potential to go very wrong, and then of course I wonder why he opted to simply prescribe medication to me (and not recommend I see a psychiatrist) when I told him I was suicidal.<br />
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My experience isn't unique, and I wonder if a lot of problems with recovery could be prevented by medication only being prescribed by psychiatrists and used in conjunction with an appropriate psychotherapy (CBT, DBT, etc).<br />
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Would Victoria Leatham had to have suffered for so long with mental health issues if she had been told about CBT in the first place? Maybe they could stop a whole lot of people suffering for so long if they could just use psychotherapy <i>and</i> medication as the first response to mental health conditions, and perhaps they should stop letting GPs prescribe psychiatric medication when they have no specific psychiatric training.<br />
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So, the moral of the story is that medication won't make you happy, but it can be very useful in the successful treatment of various mental illnesses when used in conjunction with an appropriate and supportive psychotherapy.<br />
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Obligatory disclaimer: I am not a medical professional, and my opinions are based on a metric fuckton of personal experience and a whole lot of experience with others who are receiving treatment forMinttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-30671636344314139912010-04-29T20:00:00.001+09:302010-04-30T18:08:17.200+09:30ThinspirationOne thing that has really frustrated me ever since I joined LiveJournal seven years ago is the prevalence of communities devoted to "thinspiration". Thinspiration is the triggering material that people with eating disorders use to inspire them to become thin, often photos of emaciated celebrities. The people that are members of these "thinspo" communities (and other thinspiration websites and blogs) don't see themselves as having an illness that could kill them, they view it as a positive lifestyle choice and post encouragement for each other to keep up disordered eating habits. <br />
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I find myself becoming upset and concerned about how many devoted members (many of which are young teenage girls) are going out of their way to exacerbate their disorders or even creating the disorders if they didn't already have an eating disorder. I understand the fact that they do not view their eating disorders as an illness or a problem, so perhaps my problem isn't with them. Perhaps my problem is with the fact that these sites, blogs and communities are allowed to exist when they do no good at all.<br />
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We can argue that these websites also provide an environment where people with eating disorders can talk and feel understood. I think it is important when dealing with mental health issues that we don't feel like we are in it all alone, but those communities can be provided without containing triggering material.<br />
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Perhaps I just have problems sitting by and watching while people pave a path of self-destruction when recovery is a viable outcome for so many. I find myself angry that we live in a society where our physical appearance is so important to the way others treat us and the way we view ourselves. It really is a bit of a cliche to say that it is all because of the media, but perhaps it isn't untrue. Everywhere around us we see thin celebrity poster girls for clothing ranges and hysterical propaganda about the obesity epidemic. In this day and age there is a petrifying fear of being fat.<br />
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We aren't taught to love ourselves and each other for who we are, no matter what we look like, we're taught to see fat people as being bad and unhealthy people. We're teaching our children from an early age to worry about being fat. We're teaching them that to be beautiful you must be a small size and wear certain clothes.<br />
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We are all individuals and we are all beautiful, no matter what we look like.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-69125488104174792832010-04-29T10:08:00.001+09:302010-04-29T11:10:59.642+09:30Anyone can have a mental illness, even you.Our small local paper rarely has much of interest except a whole lot of inflamed opinions, and yesterday's paper was no different, really. You see, the locals are afraid of the crazies who would be in a facility they're planning on building in the rural area outside of town. <a href="http://www.ntnews.com.au/article/2010/04/28/143071_ntnews.html">You can read the entire article (and the many ridiculous comments) here</a>.<br />
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I was shocked that someone genuinely believed that this facility was a bad idea in a town where there is a whole lot of not much in the way of mental health services, and that they also believed that the clients in this facility would break out, take their money and then "God knows what else". It seems so ludicrous in this day and age of heightened awareness of mental health (thanks to organisations like BeyondBlue, Headspace and ReachOut!) that people could still harbour such hysterical opinions.<br />
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Then I started being shocked that these people could have so little compassion or empathy for other human beings with mental illness and other disabilities. It seemed... well, crazy to me that people were still so afraid of mental illness when <a href="http://www.health.gov.au/internet/mentalhealth/publishing.nsf/Content/10416BD24115D987CA25731E00123DEA/$File/MH%20stats%20factsheet%20April%2009.pdf">one in five Australians will suffer from one in any one year</a>. Mental illness does not discriminate based on age, race, social standing or gender. It can affect <i>anyone</i> at all, and there is a high chance that someone you love will be affected by a mental illness at any time in their life.<br />
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Based on those few simple facts it seems even more absurd that anyone can have such a negative view of those with mental illnesses. So why do people still have these opinions? Quite simply because they could never think a mental illness could happen to them, and they often have very little knowledge of understanding on the subject. The most exposure to mental illness they have ever had was in the newspaper, and this younger generation has a much different view on mental illness than the older one does because of increasing amounts of education starting to appear in the media.<br />
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My own father has confusing and out-of-date knowledge of the subject of mental illness, and I became aware that a lot of the things he said that were the wrong things to say where because of his own ignorance, not out of any desire to be hurtful. He just hadn't had the same education that I had on the subject.<br />
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Perhaps the local Bees Creek community would not be reacting in such a strong way to the proposal of a mental health facility in their area if they were all given more education about mental health. It sounds so simple, but how do you educate an entire population of people who have old and strong opinions on the subject? I don't know the answer, but I hope that some day someone will because mental illness is such a common health problem in our local communities, no matter where in the world you are living.<br />
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It is also important to remember that anyone can have a mental illness, even you.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-46831514664375524202010-04-29T09:41:00.001+09:302011-05-27T21:33:13.059+09:30The Talking CrazyMy name is Alice and I have a mental illness. I aim to use this blog to talk about everything to do with mental health and to raise awareness and understanding. I want to shatter the stereotypes that society has about mental illnesses and I want to make people think a little more deeply about these issues.<br /><br />I will share my feelings about certain representations of mental health in the media, talk about my opinions on certain hot topics and just generally vent my spleen.<br /><br />I am not a mental health professional, or any kind of expert, but I do have some first hand experience and a whole lot of passion!<br /><br />I hope you enjoy reading my blog.Minttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.com