tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post3435920583852682117..comments2023-05-22T18:48:37.607+09:30Comments on The Talking Crazy: Wednesday's child is full of woeMinttuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-68468489674695613612010-06-16T18:37:45.357+09:302010-06-16T18:37:45.357+09:30Being angry and standing up for yourself is VERY d...Being angry and standing up for yourself is VERY different to thinking negative things about yourself. There is a massive difference between telling a bully to fuck off and thinking "I am a worthless, fat, ugly piece of shit". They aren't even on the same level and I am definitely not talking about the former of the two scenarios here.<br /><br />I do not think that someone talking constantly about how shit and worthless they are are in any way trying to avoid negative thoughts about something in their lives. <br /><br />I really don't think you've understood my post at all, actually.Minttuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10813383989944667097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-101595189783838780.post-30315985916536801672010-06-12T22:59:17.015+09:302010-06-12T22:59:17.015+09:30I strongly disagree with the idea that negative th...I strongly disagree with the idea that negative thinking is somehow bad for you. For example, if you're a victim of bullying but you keep trying to think nice thoughts, you'll just continue to be bullied. The way to resove the problem is to become angry enough to stand up for your rights. Life demands anger and grief of us just as much as it requires love and joy.<br /><br />Those people who frustrate you with their self-absorbed disregard are very likely behaving that way to avoid their own negative thoughts about something in their lives. Trying to boost their self-esteem only replaces one form of avoidance with another. A good therapist would unleash their negativity, allowing them to change things for real and move on.cbtishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04401107753926873126noreply@blogger.com